Mistake #2 Fear of Becoming BIG and Successful

In the last Lifestyle Development coaching, I told you the importance of being connected to your purpose and your heart’s desire so that you can be successful with whatever endeavor you choose to undergo. It led us to this important realization – your fears are the walls that you need to go through in order for you to become successful and obtain the happiness you wish to pursue.

I have faith in you no matter who you are or from where came from. I know that within your heart you have a deep sense and desire to demonstrate your fullest potential and show the world what you are capable of. Even if you are a modest person, deep within you is a person who wants to break free and show off what you can do especially in performing wonderful things so people can recognize you.

The only obstacle that your inner self is facing right now is your conscious fear of becoming big that the person within you is stuck at being small. For instance, your business has the potential of expanding and getting big but you just do not visualize it like that. Or, you have the capacity and the skill to assist others but you do not offer them any workshops to help them improve. Or, you have been a successful volunteer in an organization and you know you can still do many things but you chose to lay low and avoid taking the reign of leadership. Or, you have been keeping notes of wonderful events of your life that you can share yet you chose to keep them all as notes – unpublished and unknown to most.

In reality…YOUR FEAR OF BECOMING BIG AND SUCCESSFUL PREVENTS YOU FROM TREADING THE PATH OF SUCCESS.

The reason behind this is because you are afraid of going public, which is the haven of criticism and failure but along this thought you are also afraid of succeeding and becoming greater than your family and friends and it would make you feel isolated from your comfort zone. How long will you try to hide the fact that you have the capacity to live up to your full potential? How long will you tell yourself stories about why you cannot achieve success? Have you ever told yourself that you need to be humble and modest at what you are capable of? Do you often think that you are not good enough? Have you ever thought that you don’t have enough time and money and that people will not like you? Did you start convincing yourself that it’s not worth doing, it’s already done or you don’t know if you can make it? When you are in the “uncertain” situation, you forget to think beyond the box and you get stuck because you think you cannot face the risk.

The longer you linger on these “uncertain” things, the more real they become to you but I guarantee you – they will remain uncertain unless you do something about it! In reality, they are your unconscious excuses not to work for something that you are capable of because you are afraid of the risks. The fact remains that you can do it, you are good enough and you deserve to be successful. These “uncertain” things are invisible chains that keep you from creeping into the limelight of success. They keep you from becoming who you truly are and they restrict you from doing what you think can help the world a better place to live in.

In Lifestyle Development Coaching, we strive to acknowledge your fears and the uncertain things that revolve around you. As a result, you can start moving past them and start making a difference for yourself and for the world. And, no matter how big your projects are, you will still work hard and accomplish them!

The only way you can get past them is to start recognizing and facing your fears that keeps you where you are – never moving forward. The following questions will help you uncover your greatest fears and begin to recognize the usual patterns in your life. As you answer them, you will begin to look at the whole situation in a new perspective and make you realize that there is a bigger world to explore out there.

Always remember, you can answer the questions in whatever pace you like.

1. What are the certain aspects of your life or career where you think something is missing and that you don’t feel fully satisfied? Hint: These are the areas of your life where you CAN actually become successful but for some reason you are being restricted. Make a list of the things where you are ready to go beyond your comfort zone.

For instance:

• I am ready to pursue my skills in writing.
• I am ready to hone my marketing skills and strategies.
• I am ready to explore the world just what I was meant to be.
• I am ready to commit to romance and love.

2. What are the risks that you are likely to face if you start pursuing these aspects of your life? Write down the possible areas where you might feel the greatest risk.

For instance:

• I might have lesser time for myself since I will be very busy.
• I might compromise other areas in my life such as family and friends.
• I am afraid I will face their criticism.
• I might hurt the ego of my father especially when I become more successful than he is.
• I might be tempted with money too much that I might lose my humanity.

3. Now you recognize that you are only afraid of your own ghost, what are the different opportunities you passed or missed because of your fears and worries?

For example: “My fear of criticism prevents me from…

• achieving what I really wanted as a writer
• filling a form on online dating
• getting the promotion I truly deserve
• enjoying a 30th celebration of my birthday
Once you are through answering the questions and you realized that there are more fears than you thought there are at first then you have actually moved on from someone who is stuck inside your box to someone who is now looking outside the box. You have finally broken free from your chains and are now working towards the fulfillment of your career, life and relationships. BE BIG, BE SEEN and BE SUCCESSFUL!